Lady in waiting

                                           

In the middle of my little time of finishing my thesis, I read a book from my friend titled 'Lady in Waiting: becoming God's best while waiting for Mr. Right' which gives me a new point of view of being single. Instead of constanly searching for the right man, I have to prepare myself to be the right woman while waiting. We are reminded to be God's best by studying the Biblical character, Ruth. I learnt how to become a lady of purity, faith, contentment, patience, and more as I pursue a personal and intimate relationship with Jesus. 

Women nowadays are getting worried to find their Mr. Right and tending to lower their standards just because of loneliness and age problems. They tend to be insecure, underestimate, and not respect theirselves and it seems they praise the men more than they should praise God. That men become the center of their life! With their expectations that the men will fulfill their happiness and hunger of love and their thoughts that marriage is the answer that life would be like fairy tale, full of flowers and love words everyday, that is exactly the root of heartache starts grow. Why? Because we can not depend our happines on someone or something! Otherwise, It is better to take refuge in The Lord than to trust in humans (Psalms 118:8).

In this book, I learn to be the best for God with developing myself to become 'His bride': not too hurry to be in vain relationship, not wasting my time wishing for a dream man, using my single time wisely, not prioritizing my self-interest, serving others while patiently waiting for the right one, improving the quality of myself, and finally seeking and choosing Boas' characteristics (to put the needs of others above his own needs, to be delighted in the relationship with Christ, to maintain  good relationship with others,  to not leaped ahead of God's timing, defend the right, to accomplish all the responsibles that God gave toward him, to understand the importance of affections and emotions and to not compromise with the bads) when looking for a life partner and not only seeking him merely from the physic, money or the outwards. "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." (1 Samuel 16:7b).

I consciously know that the consequences of being not to be patience in waiting are devastation of your future life and family, e.g get divorce eventually, there is no longer emotions between each other though they life in the same roof, some will ruin their children's future, loneliness and burdens that will hurt you so bad till you can't breath. Note this, you will not only marry a husband but you will also choose a father for your children!!

It's not easy, I know it, to give all things to God, to give control to Him toward our life when we sometimes tempted to step forward while God still says wait. You have to surrender and have faith that He will give all things in the right time. But, I believe it will be worth-waiting eventually. This book is very suggested to those who are longing for being loved sincerely and finally, l discover that only a relationship with Heavenly Bridgegroom will satisfy!